I’m concerned that I spend a lot of time worrying about how I look. I want to make a good impression with people, but never feel happy about how I look most of the time. And it seems ridiculous to be so concerned about it when I’m not out to attract a mate - I already have one! So is it really a waste of time to bother with the whole hair and makeup thing? (And, as a mate of mine says, you can’t polish a turd… Love your work, mate.)
What sort of thing gives you a good impression of someone, and what give you a bad impression? Personally I don’t think it looks real good when a chick who’s on the big side wears something that’s too small and has flabby bits hanging out here and there… Or when a guy hasn’t washed his clothes or himself in a while and he smells. I hate dirty hair…
I’m really bored and there’s no action on the forums, so I’m finding ways to entertain myself...haha…
I’m alright with how I look. Only thing I’d change would be my weight, fat implants please. I’m a little self conscious about being thin.
Although I do take pride in my appearance, I’m not too concerned with what other people think. Some people (ahem ahem) think I dress weird at times, but he can kiss my (white, non existent ass) I wear what I want and I think I have good style. I rock my frizzy afro hair with confidence haha. Actually thats a bit of a lie, I usually straighten it for nights out. Fake tan? Who cares, go white! It only looks dirty anyway. Also, I don’t really fancy looking like an Oompa Loompa. Alot of my friends use the solarium - I don’t care if I’m Casper glowing white - I rather that than skin cancer!
If I’m clean, my skin is nice and fresh and nail polish is chip free, I’m good to go. Totally agree on the dirty hair thing, ugh! Nothing worse than greasy hair!!! And regrowth!!! Men that have good hygiene, style and more importantly, shoes, make a good impression. Gotta say I’m a sucker for nice eyes. His fingernails need to be well maintained.
But above all else, he needs to be intelligent, witty and able to make me laugh. If he talks sexy like Common and he can sing like J. Holiday well thats a nice bonus. His style we can always work on later.
i really do not care if ppl think i look like a retard or look great
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im happy with who i am and how i look
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if someone doesnt like the way i dress or act then they can basically fark off
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for me im kinda over looking or talking to someone bc of how they look, i just dont care if they look bad or not
Hummmmm, i think i place a lot of importance on looks for myself because when i started hitting the gym and putting on a bit of size, i noticed poeple treating me different, and i was getting more attention from girls than previous. It may have not even been to do with putting on size, but because it happened at the same time, i’ve now made the mental link between hitting the gym and getting attention. It’s the reinforcment i get, and i can’t stop the gym now.
In terms of the way i see others, i find it attractive when a girl takes care of herself. Shows self worth.
If someone’s number 1 quality is their looks, i find it to be a big warning sign.
Just to clarify, I don’t spend all my time concerned with my looks. But I do have days where I seem to spend too much time feeling crap about how I look. Well, more time than I would like, as any time on it seems a waste. But even on those days, it doesn’t stop me talking to people and socialising etc. I just figure that by my age it really shouldn’t be an issue at all. Surely I have more important things to concern myself with!!!
I’m happier with white, I think. I used a fake tan gradual thing last year that took a while to build up, but it also went all patchy and looked stupid around my knees and ankles. I just thought there might be something better, but it doesn’t really sound like it.
i really do not care if ppl think i look like a retard or look great
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im happy with who i am and how i look
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if someone doesnt like the way i dress or act then they can basically fark off
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i really do not care if ppl think i look like a retard or look great
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im happy with who i am and how i look
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if someone doesnt like the way i dress or act then they can basically fark off
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for me im kinda over looking or talking to someone bc of how they look, i just dont care if they look bad or not
Exactly, and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. what some find attractive, others might find gross. It’s all about the way you carry yourself. You can be the most attractive man in the world and carry yourself really badly. It’s all about what you project. Clothes are clothes, and all that stuff is not what a person is like on the inside.
Oily hair can GTFO though haha. Bonus points if you smell nice.
In terms of impressions I think it is still important to make a good and appropriate one depending on who you are meeting and where you are going.
Personally, I like to dress well when I go to work - I remember my mum told me once to dress for the job I want not the job I’m doing - so yeah I do put a little extra effort into dressing for work to make sure I always make a good impression especially as people from all over the company are always in and out of our office. If I need to go and visit other sites then I want to always make a good impression there also and it is naive to think that the way we dress and the way we carry ourselves doesn’t matter.
In a home/social environment Its completely different for me - I’ll wear what is most comfortable
I want to make a good impression with people, but never feel happy about how I look most of the time.
Take the focus off looking good for others and do it for you. Best way to make a good impression with people is to be happy and confident within yourself
I want to make a good impression with people, but never feel happy about how I look most of the time.
Take the focus off looking good for others and do it for you. Best way to make a good impression with people is to be happy and confident within yourself
Yeah, that’s true. I know the days I feel the most attractive are the days I feel confident within myself, and that’s always something I’ve found attractive in others, is confidence (not to be confused with arrogance!)
But there are days and/or environments when I feel like my appearance is being judged (eg when you go out) and I’m not comfortable in those situations with how I look.
Mind you, I am lucky that hubby thinks I look good all the time, even when I have the flu and haven’t had a shower for three days and over time that’s starting to rub off on me.
Due to past history, for a long time I’ve gotten my cues about how to feel about myself from others. But with support I am learning to trust my own perceptions about myself. But like I said, there are still *those* days!
One thing I’ve found is that even though I haven’t been doing it for very long and I’m not doing heaps of it, the regular exercise I’m doing is helping me to feel better about my appearance, and I think the warmer weather always helps with confidence. (Apart from the rain pissing down outside atm!)
well if ur hubby tells u that u look good all the time then thats the only important thing u should be thinking off and not wondering wat others are thinking about
well if ur hubby tells u that u look good all the time then thats the only important thing u should be thinking off and not wondering wat others are thinking about
Yeah, I don’t think I’ve been really articulate with this thread. I realise that the issue isn’t really what other people think of me, its really about what I think of myself, and on a crappy day I look to others to prove that perhaps I’m not as shit as I feel.
Yes, I have issues. We all know this - it keeps me interesting!!
And my hubby is very patient with me about this - he seems to *get* me
And I know some people get over their pregnant body and back into shape really fast - I am not one of those people. I love my daughter completely, but having her was hard on my body, and I know a lot of women would understand that can be hard on your self esteem. (But I would gladly have a shit body for the rest of my life if that’s the price of having my daughter - but maybe I don’t have to?)
Its interesting because i find alot of people tend to dress to be accepted i.e the right-now fashion, but just come off looking self conscious and uncomfortable.
I believe the thing about making first impressions is how you conduct yourself as beba says; confidence and being happy. People are attracted to happy people… an infectious smile out ways it all. Having your own style is important too and gives you personality.
Being fresh and clean is good. And wearing what makes you feel nice.
I’d also never wear anything I wouldn’t want my family to see me in.
JAYME i dont think u have issues with wat u said
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im pretty much sure that nearly every other person out there looks at other ppl who dont look great to make themselfs feel good-
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ive had ppl say shit to me about how i look but when i come back and say something about them it looks like there gonna kill themselfs bc there not ready for the truth
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like i said ppl can say wat they want about me but it wont worry me at all bc im very happy with who i am and how i dress so other pplz comments go in one ear and out the other
I wear what I want and I think I have good style. I rock my frizzy afro hair with confidence haha. Actually thats a bit of a lie, I usually straighten it for nights out. Fake tan? Who cares, go white! It only looks dirty anyway. Also, I don’t really fancy looking like an Oompa Loompa. Alot of my friends use the solarium - I don’t care if I’m Casper glowing white - I rather that than skin cancer!
and over time that’s starting to rub off on me.
