Recent events in the lives of people around me (and to a degree my own) have me questioning age. I’m surrounded by both sad and happy stories of people going out with younger/older people… It’s always been easier to believe that older people haven’t grown up rather than believe someone younger is ahead of their time.
Really it all depends if your comfortable with your age, your current situation and how happy you are. There isn’t really a hard and fast rule, unless you just want to conform to what is ‘normal’ for most.
I tend to agree with ya Soc… but I guess my question is… is it being unrealistic to have that mentality? Like can a 30 yr old make a relationship work with a 21 yr old?
my opinion is that age is just a number and as u get older that gap changes like i say ur fifty right what wrong with dating a 40 year old no one cares cause they are old well not really but u get what i mean, look closer thats a ten year gap. age is just a number im 23 and i feel like im 35 because of my lifestyle and how i grew up. there is my two cents for u
and beba i know someone who was 21 who dated a 40 yr and it worked
You can get very young 30 y.olds and also very mature 17 y/olds..doesn’t make a difference, but if they try and make a relationship work they might find out they have different values but that can happen with two ppl of the same age also, so its debatable.
Also the Generation gap could have a difference, Gen Y think very differently to Gen X.
I’ve had an aunty who married someone 17 years her senior and it worked until he was ready to hibernate and be old and she wasn’t...so she found someone who was and left him alone on his own...true story!
Ok so going off Auds’ post.... let me throw this in the mix.... lets say maturity levels are equal.... but life experience isn’t. Then what? Can it still work? Can you revisit stages in your life that they haven’t been through? Or patiently wait for them to go through them and watch? Will they just out-grow you?
On the flip side if you’re younger.... will you be able to relate to everything this person has already done? Will that intimidate you? Will their wisdom of lessons learnt help you or make you feel like you’re going out with a parent?
From my experience, i’ve noticed that life experience/trials/difficulties, lead to maturity.
i.e. Someone who’s been spoilt by their parents and had everything handed to them in life, has a warped and imature view of the world. They’ve been protected from life experience.
Someone who’s overcome trials and hardships, learnt from mistakes or blunders, and is a better person for it, is mature. They know how to handle things better in the future.
Depends what you classify as life experience i guess.
All i can say is that anything can be justfiable why a reationship does or does not work. Give it a go and if its there- that ‘spark’ then see. If its not going to happen it doesn’t matter what is thrown in the mix.
bah it annoys me when ppl make a big deal over someones age when there dating someone younger then them
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i was 6 years older then my ex and 4 years old then the one before my last ex, both of those lastest 3 to 4 years +
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my first was 1 year younger then me and we lasted for 6 years
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there is no difference at all
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if both of u are willing to work on it and totally forget about the age then anything is possible
well my was 5 yrs ynger than me .. my currnet gf is five years yunger than me ..and yes ppl do tend to drop snide remarks bt pfft i dont care.. cos im the more immature one so i act liek im younger anywayas lol
I’ve just come out of a relationship with a 30yo. I’m 4 years younger. I think its fair to say our relationship ended because of his immaturity. Guys are always immature, us girls are always the responsible ones, holding it down haha
I’ve just come out of a relationship with a 30yo. I’m 4 years younger. I think its fair to say our relationship ended because of his immaturity. Guys are always immature, us girls are always the responsible ones, holding it down haha
HAHA!.....ahhhh… anyways....see I’ve always thought the girls are more mature which is why I’m a little concerned about being interested in someone younger than me. Hmmm.
