So this new internet site came along and created a storm of attention and profiles and photos and fun…
Now it seems a little more down the track, its a tool of access to exploit yourself, discover more about other people (for good and bad) and become a direct contact with all the people you meet or have met in your life (my Great Aunt has a profile for Christs sake!!)
So what is this doing to our privacy, personal lives and control of the (lets face it) ego, as it feels a little like self-advertisement at times.
You can search on anyone, know what all your friends, exboyfriends or current flings are upto- which is Face it- unhealthy!
you can find out more about a person you’ve just met by going onto their profile than it would take you in weeks of dating or seeing a new friend...so where is the natural discovery gone?
Do we really want to know everything about everyone...and does it feel right that we want ppl to know so much about us?!
People have chosen to delete their profiles, so if you do- are you now out of the loop of invites, photos, and who’s now ‘in a relationship’ etc or have you just held an amazing stand to living in your moment in your life and creating a more peaceful life for yourself.
I chose to delete my profile back in March, because i found it was distracting my train of thought. I really needed to focus on something very important to me this year, and i couldn’t because i kept thinking about how much of an arsehole chris is for dissing dave on his status change, and similar thoughts. Then i started stressing about people from work who hadn’t met me yet looking up my profile and seeing I’m not what they thought i was. Then i was stressing about ex gf’s using mutual friends to find out what i’ve been up to. Then i was stressed about seeing photos of people who were trying to get into the pants of my exes at one time being uploaded of them with my ex.
It just messed with my emotions, and i don’t need that right now. I thought i’d be desperate to re-enable it and get back on there, but i never have been. I’m not upset that i’m not hearing about what people are up to. I’d prefer to hear it from them personally. The only thing that sucks about not being on facebook anymore, is not hearing about events. Most people these days cbf calling around or SMSing, so they create a facebook event. If you’re not on facebook, tough. You don’t hear about it.
It’s getting to a point where you can’t live without it, which is why i’m going to get back on soon when i’ve got a few other things out of the way. This time, i’m going to try and control myself. Not go snooping for info, and not try and take things too seriously.
I could type pages on the pros and cons, the invasion of privacy, or the exhibitionism..Its value as a marketing and its use as a means to stay connected.
I liken facebook 2008 to the Mobile revolution of the early 90s. When they were first mass marketed mobiles were seen as tools for ‘tools’ - only a wanker would be caught dead with one. Over time and with the introduction of smaller appliances (fashion accessories), Bluetooth, SMS, cap plans, MMS, video, Apps (ie Shazzam on the IPhone) now the question is how the hell did we ever live without them.
There are still a host of dilemmas associated with the old mobile. Privacy, being overly accessible, health (are we killing ourselves with the radio waves), misuse (texting whilst driving, hands free etc..) My 12 and 9 year old have mobiles for ‘safety’ reasons - so they can call in an emergency. Geez we must have had a lot of deaths and accidents in the 70s without them yeah? (although I dont recall...)
Facebook has changed (or coined) social networking the way mobiles have changed communications (the way google has changed how we search for stuff electronically). Debate will rage as to whether this decays or enhances our society (have we lost the art of face to face comms? can we no longer research using a library etc.....) but the bottom line is facebook (like mobiles and google and foxtel) are here to stay - You can ignore it and choose not to participate or moderate participation as you see fit - but you cannot deny that is has become part of our social fabric....
“You can search on anyone, know what all your friends, exboyfriends or current flings are upto- which is Face it- unhealthy”
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which is why i will never sign up to this stupid website
I try to keep my facebook page as superficial as possible though so theres nothing really on there that anyone could call to question and furthermore I can’t imagine why anyone would interest themselves in my life in that way!
I think that facebook can be really unhealthy for some but I guess its all in their approach. I’ve seen people “stalk” other people on facebook and become somewhat obsessed with love interests and whatnot. Personally I don’t really use it for much more than communicating with friends and family so I see facebook in a really positive light.
I hardly use it anymore, but when i do jump on there are a shit load of friend requests from people i just do NOT fkng know!
I dont know if its coz i DJ and they see me play sometimes or they know someone who knows me or just are Randoms bored flicking thru profiles for friends!??
I use it to stay in touch with fam and friends interstate for example but not to use it to talk to someone i see every week! FFS
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On another note.. has anyone else heard how the governments of the world want to microchip EVERYONE one day? so that they keep an eye on EVERYONE and control our lives and be able to always track us down?? this is real shit!!
I think Facebook is a way of invading ones personal space in the same respect..
I don’t use it. I don’t really want to write about me. I just lurk on friends - except I only have one on FB. Hmmm. Anyone want another lurker??? I delurk every now and then, not often though. Otherwise I get hooked into it and end up staying up half the night on the net and feel like shit the next day. Well, more so…
seriously ive started blocking ppls email addys bc im sick and tired of getting this fucken retarded email
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17 of your friends invited you to join Facebook..
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i really do not wanna see that
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i keep in contact with my friends via my phone and thats enough for me
i keep in contact with my friends via my phone and thats enough for me
Mate as a DJ you need to keep in with the social networks… Like it or not bro you have fans, fans that aren’t friends. Fans and past friends that would probably like to know where you are Dj’n etcera etcera. Sef get with it! I seriously reckon that you would own twitter!
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I try to take responsibility for my actions (i always put my foot in it but) i try not to blame facebook, myspace, video games, marilyn manson or the devil…
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What about the therapeutical side of it, i reckon i get some serious stress relieve from having a laugh with you peeps on grooveon
no i dont wanna join some stupid site like this
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i do not wanna waste my time checking it all threw the day
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facebook and twitter is not for me
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barry i made it ages ago as a dj so i dont need this crap
Yeah i get ya point, my little bro’s getting into the clubs now - getting the whole dj vs promoter crap.. DJ Contorentorento (DJ C) goes pretty hard with the promo!
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It’s not you tho it’s about ya alter-self DJ SEF, he has fans! Hehee like honestly bro i rock up to seven, wouldnt have a clue when/if ya djn etcera…
Like a bucks party - its not for the groom!
